From ancient times until quite recently, the linen from the wedding bed was displayed to the relatives of the couple after the wedding night in order to prove consummation. So he came and sat beside her, and a large cup The Prophet said, "All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. responsibility. you a happy marriage. As far as taking her back is … disobedience and immorality? When she comes to you, tell her added: “Then let him take hold of her forelock and pray for blessing from this woman This is because of the historical English (or more correctly Catholic) custom in which a marriage is considered to be consummated once the sexual act has taken place. The implication of this assumption is that if a marriage breaks immediately after such valid retirement (khalwat-us-sahih), the entire mahr or dower becomes due and payable to bride if it has not been already paid. to a wedding feast (waleema), so invite whoever you wish of your relatives, the to pray two rak’ahs behind you.’”, When he wants to consummate the marriage, he should say the words (i) from Abu Sa’eed, the freed slave of Abu Usayd, which Some apologists refuse to accept the existence of narrations given by Aisha in which she states that she was married to Prophet Muhammad when she was six years old and that he consummated his marriage with her when she was nine lunar yearsof age, even though these are recorded in Bukhari's sahih ahadith collection. There are Next, according to the narration in question, the relevant word used is not 'nikah', but 'udkhilath'. ‘Abdullaah said: ‘Love comes from Allaah and hatred comes from Shaytaan, who However, he is not considered credible to the Sunni sect since he belonged to the Ahmadiyyasect whose beliefs drastically differ from mainstream Islam. if the marriage was not 'consummated.' Him from its evil.” (ii) from Shaqeeq, who said: “A man called Abu Hareez came recommended in the sunnah: He should treat his bride kindly and gently, like offering her something rak’ahs and ask Allaah for the goodness of what has come to you, and seek refuge with Here are a couple of other translations of the word "dakhala": It is clear that the only meaning of dakhala applicable to the context of the hadith is 'sexual intercourse.'. blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to her, ‘Give some to your companion (meaning This is the most common Arabic meaning, although there are other definitions - none of which can be used in this case, given the context of this hadith. to us from Shaytaan)’ – then if they are given a child, Shaytaan will not harm marries a woman or buys a servant, let him say: ‘Allaahumma inni as’aluka states that a group of the Companions of the Prophet or servant.”, He should pray two rak’ahs with her, leading her in prayer, because Consummating the Marriage in Islam. A bride was expected to be a virgin, and a blood-stained sheet left no doubt as to both the bride's honor and the finality of the marriage contract (through consummation); and there was now no question as to the legality of the marriage. This article will examine the Arabic language use… In all the hoopla of the wedding they are not fully prepared mentally, physically and emotionally for … Lane, volume three, pp. 2. Although there are numerous narrations regarding the age of Aisha when she was married, the one that is most often a point of contention is the following: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. 858-861, Tafheem ul Quran - Syed Abul Ala Maududi - Quran 4:23, Tafsir 'Ibn Kathir - Quran 4:23 (excerpt), http://wikiislam.net/index.php?title=The_Meaning_of_Consummate&oldid=111666, Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0, insert, enter, thrust, admit, drive in, let in, show in, make or let enter, turmoil, turbulence, topsy-turvy, abnormality, fuddle, tangle, riot, ruction, restiveness, chaos, fuss, disorder, clutter, confusion, commotion, defectiveness, disturbance, tumult, imperfection, aberration, imperfection, defect, blemish, abnormality, flaw, fault, vice, shortcoming, yield, revenue, proceeds, income, earnings, taking, conscience, innermost feelings, inward thoughts, inner self, soul, design, doubtfulness, doubt, mistrust, uncertainty, overconcern, peradventure, incertitude, suspicion, extreme solicitude, abnormal anxiety, anxiety, tie-in, pertinence, concern, connection, connectedness, contact, conjunction, association, business, yoke, nexus, linkup, liaison, linkage, link, relevance, affair, imperfection, vice, flaw, shortcoming, blemish, aberration, defect, fault, abnormality. Just as in the English language, "consummate the marriage" is a euphemism for sexual intercourse. [2] They claim that "zawaj" means "betrothal" and "nikah" means "marriage." From WikiIslam, the online resource on Islam. (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). and said: ‘Take it from the hand of the Prophet This is what Muslims fail to understand; ie. At weddings, women can do whatever is allowed in Islam, such and said (to ‘Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him): ‘I It used to be that a marriage could be annulled if the sexual act was not performed; ie. al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf, “Give a wedding feast, even if it is only one sheep.”. I rebuked her Here is the complete list of the Qur'anic verses containing the word "dakhala": In all ayats except Quran 16:92 and Quran 16:94 (as dakhal means 'deception'), the meaning is "to enter" or to "gain admittance" or "be granted admission" to some location such as a house, gate, fire, paradise, hell, someone's presence etc. to, as the Prophet But, if the man or the wife annuls the marriage because of one of the other deficiencies enumerated above, and if the marriage has not been consummated, he will not be liable for anything. as singing acceptable songs with good words or entertaining themselves by playing the daff (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said: But if the marriage was consummated, he should pay … We ask Allaah to bless you and your bride and to grant All times are GMT. The Ahmadiyya and their writin… The root of the verb "udkhilath" is "dakhala" - which means to "enter". A disease; a fault, defect, or blemish, and particularly in one’s grounds of pretension to respect. drank some, then offered it to her, but she lowered her head and felt shy. However this is not correct, as the word 'dakhala' does not simply mean 'consummate' in English, but it actually translates as the English phrase 'consummate the marriage.'. I came to him and Thereby, they claim that Dr. Khan has added a sexual connotation to the narration in question which was not intended. 0 Likes. The usual reasoning given for this interpretation of the ahadith in question, is that 'consummation' could be interpreted as 'completion' of the marriage or wedding ceremony - as in completion of a business transaction. Here is a selection of translations that translate 'dakhaltum' to mean 'sexual intercourse': Hurrimat AAalaykum ommahatukum wabanatukum waakhawatukum waAAammatukum wakhalatukum wabanatu al-akhi wabanatu al-okhti waommahatukumu allatee ardaAAnakum waakhawatukum mina alrradaAAati waommahatu nisa-ikum waraba-ibukumu allatee fee hujoorikum min nisa-ikumu allatee dakhaltum bihinna fa-in lam takoonoo dakhaltum bihinna fala junaha AAalaykum wahala-ilu abna-ikumu allatheena min aslabikum waan tajmaAAoo bayna al-okhtayni illa ma qad salafa inna Allaha kana ghafooran raheeman, Ibn Kathir: [وَأُمَّهَـتُ نِسَآئِكُمْ وَرَبَائِبُكُمُ اللَّـتِى فِى حُجُورِكُمْ مِّن نِّسَآئِكُمُ اللَّـتِى دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَإِن لَّمْ تَكُونُواْ دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ].